3 Steps to Constant Happiness

It’s the holiday season and most of us are wishing others- and ourselves- Happy Holidays. But most people in the world are not happy, and most people don’t feel constantly blessed, regardless of how good their life might be.

Are you maybe one of them? If so, let me try to help. 

Be sure that this is not another message trying to make you feel guilty for what you have or for not being happy with what you have. What I’ll be trying to show you is how to truly and permanently be blessed regardless of what you are or have or don’t have.

Here are 3 steps to get you from where you are now to constant happiness:

Step 1

Realize that the world you experience is a creation of your mind. This might or might not be a new idea for you. If it is, you might need time to reflect on it or read books about it in order to understand. But your shortcut is to accept this idea as a hypothesis that you want to experiment with. 

Starting today, remind yourself as often as you can that what you see, hear, experience, is a movie projected by your own mind on the screen of your life. 

Step 2

Realize that the world you experience is a creation of your mind. This might or might not be a new idea for you. If it is, you might need time to reflect on it or read books about it in order to understand. But your shortcut is to accept this idea as a hypothesis that you want to experiment with. 

Starting today, remind yourself as often as you can that what you see, hear, experience, is a movie projected by your own mind on the screen of your life. 

Step 2

Having accepted that your world is your own mind-projection, sit down and identify the biggest issue that causes you pain and makes you unhappy. Look at this issue and ask yourself why you are creating that situation.

Your first reaction might be: “But I’m not creating this, someone else, something out there is the cause and I am a victim of circumstances”. Your reaction might also be “Yes, it is all my fault, I messed up completely, and there is nothing I can do about it.”

If any of these reactions happen, gently remind yourself that you have agreed to turn your view around. So repeat the question without any kind of judgment, but simply with curiosity: “Why am I projecting this painful situation in my life right now? Why am I holding on to this story about myself and my life?”

You don’t need to answer, this is not a question looking for causes, it is a question intended to make you aware that you have a choice. 

Step 3

When you have become aware of the main story that makes you unhappy, and of the fact that you are creating it yourself, when you have also become aware that you are free to let go of it, now is the time to actually choose.

Observe the painful story and ask yourself if you prefer to hold on to it, or if you would rather be happy. If you have come this far, you now realize that your happiness is always there, but it is being shadowed by a story which claims that you have reasons for unhappiness, and you are attached to that story. So you now have the choice to keep the story, and thus remain in the usual unhappiness, or to let go of it, and regain your innate state of bliss.

If you choose your happiness, you will have to let go of all the roles you have assumed in that story and all the roles you have given others. Victims and perpetrators, winners and losers, saints and sinners will all have to return to be neutral characters and you might even enjoy giving them new and much nicer roles. It’s up to you. But the main thing here is that you have stopped letting a story drive your life and make you unhappy without your conscious permission. 

So these are the 3 steps to moving from unhappiness to permanent happiness:

1) You remind yourself that you are projecting the world.

2) You identify the story that is making you unhappy.

3) You let go of that story. 

You will of course have to repeat the process with every story that has sneaked in and keeps you in unconscious unhappiness. But if you do this thoroughly, you will notice that … there is no cloud on your sky anymore. That’s when you will know for sure that our healthy, normal, natural state is permanent bliss and the mind won’t need to go someplace crazy where there is great suffering.

Then you will be permanently happy because that’s how you are, and you will contribute to the everyone’s happiness, by not indulging in their negative stories and also, by not projecting these people as either powerless or wrong. 

I hope this helps! Let me know if it does. Happy Holidays my friends! 🙂


Aurora Carlson works as a counselor, life-coach, healer and teacher of Ayurveda, meditation and skillful living.  She has created this platform to bring tools for well-being and self-realization to as many as possible.

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